#FlipSide

7e53ee08-fafc-4c79-ade1-29e52fd3f64d_zps2978d58d  I don’t understand how a woman could be with a man that doesn’t have a real relationship with his kids?  I personally broke up with a guy solely because he did not have a real relationship with his kids.  He was a paper daddy  which means he paid his child support, on time and only spends time with them on special occasions.   A real relationship is when the do those things plus spending a lot of quality time with their kids.  If a man doesn’t feel like his kids are worth quality time then he is definitely not the man for me.   But on the flip side How can a man be with a woman who doesn’t want him to have a relationship with his children.  If a woman doesn’t want you to have a real relationship with your children then why would you want to be with her?   Is she that jealous that she can’t share you with your children?? or is she worried your going to be creepin with the baby mama?  Either way she doesn’t have you or your children best interest at heart. Well that’s just my opinion its not the law lol

#Tlj

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#MyReflections ….The Lesson

ebcbd32a-af2a-4237-9445-ff33826239b1_zpsed0e7debThe lesson.

There is a lesson to learn within every struggle.  Patients is one of the lessons I’ve learned.  God works on his own time.  Sometimes we have to sit in the dirty laundry long enough to learn our lesson and let him work.   I promise you I know how hard it is to do that but I had to fight through a truly deep valley where I often felt alone but even in my weakest moment I found that damn mustard seed of faith and I held on tight to it.  Doing that helped me to be patient for a change and let Him do his work.  How many blessings have you missed out on because you weren’t patient enough to let God do his work?   Faith and patients go hand and hand

My Reflections … Memories

 

 

People fall out of love with each other and with life so easy these days because they stop making amazing memories with their mate. 30 – 45% of your marriage/relationship should consist of fun, love, wild,sweet, romantic, sexy moments. Once you stop adding spice to your love recipe the love fades away and gets dull then the amazing memories are to few and far between to keep you happy… Tlj

 

Have a memory worthy day!!

The truth ain’t pretty… Ladies take time to pamper your man

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Why don’t women treat men the way they want us to treat them?

What happened to old fashion women who know how to love their man?

Is it possible to find a woman who takes care of her mans needs too?  

 

When you have a really good man then you should pamper.  At least once every other month you should take the time to pamper your man!  I don’t mean just make him some dinner and give him a little cookie.  I mean go all out for you husband!

Sometimes a man really needs to be pampered. Maybe it’s been a hard few months financially and he has been busting his ass to keep the family above water.  He has worked 2 jobs, side hustled and saved gave every penny to his family.  This would be a perfect time to make him feel special.  Take the time to pamper that man because he needs it.  When he is in the tub get the massage oils ready so when he gets out you can lay him down on a little pallet, turn on some relaxing neo-soul and give him a full massage by candle light.

Maybe your man has given you everything that you want all the time just to keep a smile on your pretty little face. If so then you should do something special for him. If you know your guy is a big basketball fan then maybe you should give him a sports night staycatoin.  A staycatoin is a vacation without leaving the city.  You get him a nice hotel way room, stock the room with beers and snacks, order him some food to be delivered at a specific time and then just give him the key to the room.  Don’t tell him your doing it just do it.  Don’t go with him and don’t bug him for the rest of the night.  Let him chill in a nice room with a view watching the NBA playoffs and feeling good.

If you have a good man then take the time to pamper him because he deserves it.   If your guy is the kind of man that gives his absolute all to his family then pampering him should be a given. Giving him a little pampering now and then will surely make him feel loved, respected and taken care of!    You can switch it up here and there but please take the time and make the effort to take care of him since his mission every day is to take care of you.

 

Ladies if you  have a good man then i want you to ask yourself when was the last time you pampered him?  If you are single then ask yourself this question, in the past when you had a good man did you pamper him at all? Be honest with yourself when you answer ladies.

 

 

If people faced their own truth’s then they would stop making so many damn mistakes!!  

The truth ain’t pretty,

Tlj