#FlipSide

7e53ee08-fafc-4c79-ade1-29e52fd3f64d_zps2978d58d  I don’t understand how a woman could be with a man that doesn’t have a real relationship with his kids?  I personally broke up with a guy solely because he did not have a real relationship with his kids.  He was a paper daddy  which means he paid his child support, on time and only spends time with them on special occasions.   A real relationship is when the do those things plus spending a lot of quality time with their kids.  If a man doesn’t feel like his kids are worth quality time then he is definitely not the man for me.   But on the flip side How can a man be with a woman who doesn’t want him to have a relationship with his children.  If a woman doesn’t want you to have a real relationship with your children then why would you want to be with her?   Is she that jealous that she can’t share you with your children?? or is she worried your going to be creepin with the baby mama?  Either way she doesn’t have you or your children best interest at heart. Well that’s just my opinion its not the law lol

#Tlj

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Dirty Laundry

d7d4ab3d-cb6e-4900-888b-a468dfbe5056_zpsd27e5674Let’s do this dirty laundry 

Someone sent me an email asking me to post this question.

Tracy I have a question for you.  How long should I wait on my man to commit to being in a monogamist relationship?   We have been dating for two years now and he still hasn’t made a commitment to me.  I know he loves me because he has been with me for 2 years but he still doesn’t want me spending the night at his house but he spends the night at my house whenever he wants to.  I cook for him at least 3 days a week and we don’t even live together.  I go over his house and make him dinner  3 times a week, tidy up the house and give him a little but he still says he is not ready to be in  serious relationship??  I just don’t understand why men today don’t know when they have a good women!  Are there any good men left in this world??

Mia

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First let me say that Mia I don’t think he is the one with the problem.  I think you may be the one who has the issues not him.  You see he is upfront with his shit.  He told you that he is not committing to you but yet you still give him everything anyway so why wouldn’t he keep you around.  He continues to get the best of both worlds with you.  Your initial question is an oxymoron “How long should I wait on my man to commit to being in a monogamist relationship?”.  If he was your man he would already be committed so stop claiming him when he is not claiming you!  Ask your self a question Mia.  Why are you acting like his woman when he makes it clear to you that he is not your man?  Why are you cooking, cleaning and sexing a man who doesn’t want to be in a monogamist relationship with you?  The solution to your problem is easy Mia.  The only thing that needs fixing is you.  If he is not ready to commit no matter what you do he still won’t be committing to you.  Stop giving him the amenities of having a wife when he is not willing or ready to commit himself willing to you. You can’t force, coerce or trap a man into a committed relationship.  The only way he will commit to a relationship is if he truly wants to and I don’t know about you that’s the only kind of man that I want!  Now that’s jut my opinion some people may feel completely different.

Tra

Question of the day… Is a “Nice” guy automatically a “Good” guy?

ef8e72f6-5372-49a9-a25c-e4eb6c3675a4_zps29dcc2a3As women we always assume that the “Nice” is automatically a “Good” guy.  I think we do that because we repeatedly assume that they are both one in the same.  Do you believe that a “Nice” Guy and a “Good” Guy are the same?  Do they mean the same thing in your mind?