#MyReflections ….The Lesson

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There is a lesson to learn within every struggle.  Patients is one of the lessons I’ve learned.  God works on his own time.  Sometimes we have to sit in the dirty laundry long enough to learn our lesson and let him work.   I promise you I know how hard it is to do that but I had to fight through a truly deep valley where I often felt alone but even in my weakest moment I found that damn mustard seed of faith and I held on tight to it.  Doing that helped me to be patient for a change and let Him do his work.  How many blessings have you missed out on because you weren’t patient enough to let God do his work?   Faith and patients go hand and hand

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Dirty Laundry

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Someone sent me an email asking me to post this question.

Tracy I have a question for you.  How long should I wait on my man to commit to being in a monogamist relationship?   We have been dating for two years now and he still hasn’t made a commitment to me.  I know he loves me because he has been with me for 2 years but he still doesn’t want me spending the night at his house but he spends the night at my house whenever he wants to.  I cook for him at least 3 days a week and we don’t even live together.  I go over his house and make him dinner  3 times a week, tidy up the house and give him a little but he still says he is not ready to be in  serious relationship??  I just don’t understand why men today don’t know when they have a good women!  Are there any good men left in this world??

Mia

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First let me say that Mia I don’t think he is the one with the problem.  I think you may be the one who has the issues not him.  You see he is upfront with his shit.  He told you that he is not committing to you but yet you still give him everything anyway so why wouldn’t he keep you around.  He continues to get the best of both worlds with you.  Your initial question is an oxymoron “How long should I wait on my man to commit to being in a monogamist relationship?”.  If he was your man he would already be committed so stop claiming him when he is not claiming you!  Ask your self a question Mia.  Why are you acting like his woman when he makes it clear to you that he is not your man?  Why are you cooking, cleaning and sexing a man who doesn’t want to be in a monogamist relationship with you?  The solution to your problem is easy Mia.  The only thing that needs fixing is you.  If he is not ready to commit no matter what you do he still won’t be committing to you.  Stop giving him the amenities of having a wife when he is not willing or ready to commit himself willing to you. You can’t force, coerce or trap a man into a committed relationship.  The only way he will commit to a relationship is if he truly wants to and I don’t know about you that’s the only kind of man that I want!  Now that’s jut my opinion some people may feel completely different.

Tra

My Reflections … Memories

 

 

People fall out of love with each other and with life so easy these days because they stop making amazing memories with their mate. 30 – 45% of your marriage/relationship should consist of fun, love, wild,sweet, romantic, sexy moments. Once you stop adding spice to your love recipe the love fades away and gets dull then the amazing memories are to few and far between to keep you happy… Tlj

 

Have a memory worthy day!!

The truth ain’t pretty… Ladies take time to pamper your man

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Why don’t women treat men the way they want us to treat them?

What happened to old fashion women who know how to love their man?

Is it possible to find a woman who takes care of her mans needs too?  

 

When you have a really good man then you should pamper.  At least once every other month you should take the time to pamper your man!  I don’t mean just make him some dinner and give him a little cookie.  I mean go all out for you husband!

Sometimes a man really needs to be pampered. Maybe it’s been a hard few months financially and he has been busting his ass to keep the family above water.  He has worked 2 jobs, side hustled and saved gave every penny to his family.  This would be a perfect time to make him feel special.  Take the time to pamper that man because he needs it.  When he is in the tub get the massage oils ready so when he gets out you can lay him down on a little pallet, turn on some relaxing neo-soul and give him a full massage by candle light.

Maybe your man has given you everything that you want all the time just to keep a smile on your pretty little face. If so then you should do something special for him. If you know your guy is a big basketball fan then maybe you should give him a sports night staycatoin.  A staycatoin is a vacation without leaving the city.  You get him a nice hotel way room, stock the room with beers and snacks, order him some food to be delivered at a specific time and then just give him the key to the room.  Don’t tell him your doing it just do it.  Don’t go with him and don’t bug him for the rest of the night.  Let him chill in a nice room with a view watching the NBA playoffs and feeling good.

If you have a good man then take the time to pamper him because he deserves it.   If your guy is the kind of man that gives his absolute all to his family then pampering him should be a given. Giving him a little pampering now and then will surely make him feel loved, respected and taken care of!    You can switch it up here and there but please take the time and make the effort to take care of him since his mission every day is to take care of you.

 

Ladies if you  have a good man then i want you to ask yourself when was the last time you pampered him?  If you are single then ask yourself this question, in the past when you had a good man did you pamper him at all? Be honest with yourself when you answer ladies.

 

 

If people faced their own truth’s then they would stop making so many damn mistakes!!  

The truth ain’t pretty,

Tlj

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

#MyReflections…. Thank then Praise

ImageHappy Saturday!!

Hope you are having a great day so far.  I personally think everyone should take the the time once a week to just thank God and then Praise him.  I am not referring to church either. I mean some real personal time away from everything and everyone to give God thanks for getting you through your past and then praise him for the spectacular future you have ahead of you.  So Today I  want to thank God for getting me through my past and then thank HIM for the spectacular future i see ahead of me.  If you don’t believe through anything then you truly don’t have faith.  I am not a saint but I am learning how to be the best me I can be.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

Tlj #GladiatorLife

p.s. GO GREEN!! lol ( i had to do it)