#MyReflections ….The Lesson

ebcbd32a-af2a-4237-9445-ff33826239b1_zpsed0e7debThe lesson.

There is a lesson to learn within every struggle.  Patients is one of the lessons I’ve learned.  God works on his own time.  Sometimes we have to sit in the dirty laundry long enough to learn our lesson and let him work.   I promise you I know how hard it is to do that but I had to fight through a truly deep valley where I often felt alone but even in my weakest moment I found that damn mustard seed of faith and I held on tight to it.  Doing that helped me to be patient for a change and let Him do his work.  How many blessings have you missed out on because you weren’t patient enough to let God do his work?   Faith and patients go hand and hand

Dirty Laundry

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Someone sent me an email asking me to post this question.

Tracy I have a question for you.  How long should I wait on my man to commit to being in a monogamist relationship?   We have been dating for two years now and he still hasn’t made a commitment to me.  I know he loves me because he has been with me for 2 years but he still doesn’t want me spending the night at his house but he spends the night at my house whenever he wants to.  I cook for him at least 3 days a week and we don’t even live together.  I go over his house and make him dinner  3 times a week, tidy up the house and give him a little but he still says he is not ready to be in  serious relationship??  I just don’t understand why men today don’t know when they have a good women!  Are there any good men left in this world??




First let me say that Mia I don’t think he is the one with the problem.  I think you may be the one who has the issues not him.  You see he is upfront with his shit.  He told you that he is not committing to you but yet you still give him everything anyway so why wouldn’t he keep you around.  He continues to get the best of both worlds with you.  Your initial question is an oxymoron “How long should I wait on my man to commit to being in a monogamist relationship?”.  If he was your man he would already be committed so stop claiming him when he is not claiming you!  Ask your self a question Mia.  Why are you acting like his woman when he makes it clear to you that he is not your man?  Why are you cooking, cleaning and sexing a man who doesn’t want to be in a monogamist relationship with you?  The solution to your problem is easy Mia.  The only thing that needs fixing is you.  If he is not ready to commit no matter what you do he still won’t be committing to you.  Stop giving him the amenities of having a wife when he is not willing or ready to commit himself willing to you. You can’t force, coerce or trap a man into a committed relationship.  The only way he will commit to a relationship is if he truly wants to and I don’t know about you that’s the only kind of man that I want!  Now that’s jut my opinion some people may feel completely different.


My Reflections … Memories



People fall out of love with each other and with life so easy these days because they stop making amazing memories with their mate. 30 – 45% of your marriage/relationship should consist of fun, love, wild,sweet, romantic, sexy moments. Once you stop adding spice to your love recipe the love fades away and gets dull then the amazing memories are to few and far between to keep you happy… Tlj


Have a memory worthy day!!

#MyReflections…. Thank then Praise

ImageHappy Saturday!!

Hope you are having a great day so far.  I personally think everyone should take the the time once a week to just thank God and then Praise him.  I am not referring to church either. I mean some real personal time away from everything and everyone to give God thanks for getting you through your past and then praise him for the spectacular future you have ahead of you.  So Today I  want to thank God for getting me through my past and then thank HIM for the spectacular future i see ahead of me.  If you don’t believe through anything then you truly don’t have faith.  I am not a saint but I am learning how to be the best me I can be.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

Tlj #GladiatorLife

p.s. GO GREEN!! lol ( i had to do it)

Mirror Mirror….Ladies do you deserve what you want in a man?

imagesCAIT1B99Deserve – do something or have or show qualities worthy of (reward or punishment).

We as women demand so many things from our men but do we truly deserve what we want?  For example, we want a man to take care of us yet we throw our independence in their faces every chance we get.  It is ok to independent but a man needs to feel needed so if you don’t make him feel that way don’t be mad when he doesn’t give you what you claim to need.

How many times have you heard a woman say “I want a man who works hard”  but as soon as they get one they complain all day about him not having enough time to spend with her?

I have known a number of women who (including myself) who claimed to want a “nice guy” but when we get them we run all over them.  I know I am not the only person who has had a “nice guy” and didn’t appreciate him enough.

I personally know a few women who always said they wanted a man to buy them a beautiful home.  Once they found that man and he provided them with what they wanted they were to damn lazy to keep the home clean.

If you look at your Check list of qualities that you have set for further husband are you worthy of those things or do you need to do some work on yourself first?  The problem is you can get everything you want on your checklist but if you are not deserving you will be sure to lose him.

Take the time to do personal spring cleaning!